It’s been a while since I wrote a personal blog, so I decided to share the most important things that matter to me now as a 28 year old woman (which I’m pretty sure other women in this stage of life can relate also). You remember when something bad happened in your early teens and early twenties…and you just knew that your life was over? All of your friends are going separate ways. You didn’t get into your dream college. That boy that wasn’t good for you anyway broke up with you. You graduated and didn’t have any clue what you wanted to do with your life. Well, I’m here to tell you..you got through it, right? If you got through that back then, you will get through your struggles now! Life is too beautiful to be worrying about the “what ifs” and stressing over things you have no control over anyway.
Your 20’s are your self-discovery years. Who cares if you don’t have all the answers today?
I must say my twenties hold some of my best memories. I got myself in so many situations that only God could get me out of…but it made me stronger and I learned from my mistakes. I did so much damage in my earlier twenties and I don’t regret any of the mistakes I made. It made me who I am today. I was the typical chick: college, clubbing, drinking, etc. I wasn’t scared to take risks and try new things. If I woke up and decided I wanted to shave the side of my head, I did it (which I did in real life lol). There was no room for questioning in my life back then. It molded me for my late 20’s. I’m more aware of who I am and what I want. I know what I will tolerate and won’t tolerate. I don’t feel bad cutting toxic people out of my life who serves no purpose to be in it. I am establishing myself for the years to come. Everyday, I’m learning something new about myself. Here are my golden rules for this year:
1. Be aware of your circle.
You become like the five people you’re mostly around. Stay away for toxic and negative people. If your five people are sour, there is a chance you are too. It’s beneficial to surround yourself with people who have the same mindset as you.
2. TRUE friendships never die!
Trust me, your friends still love you. You guys are not in high school and college anymore. Your friends are busy just like you! They have responsibilities and families to take care of. Don’t take everything personal if they can’t come to all of your events. Support when you can. Be apologetic when you can’t.
3. Stop being a YES person.
If something doesn’t feel right, you’re not obligated to do anything that goes against your morals. Accept that it is impossible to please everybody. Instead, do what’s best for you.
4. PRIORITIZE your life
The things that were probably important to you back at the age of 22 doesn’t even matter now in your late 20’s. Have grown goals! Investing in your own business, focusing on your career, building a higher credit score, insurance, stocks, trust funds, becoming a homeowner, etc. Always have your hand in more than one investment. Who cares if you never become rich? Be grateful if you’re able to still live comfortable after paying bills and still have money in your savings for a rainy day. That doesn’t mean that you slack on your dreams. Do everything to your fullest potential.
5. Having more responsibilities doesn’t mean you can’t have fun!
You’re an adult, not a prisoner. Make time for yourself. Solitude can be really enjoyable especially when it’s overdue. Make time to hang with loved ones and friends. Don’t forget the best things in life are free. Joy comes from the smallest things. Freedom comes when you have faith everything will work out exactly how it’s supposed to be. You got this!