I know its been a minute and I hope everyone is doing well. I’m currently burning the midnight oil writing this, but it’s necessary for me to release it and also for the person who may read this and need this message as well.
As for me, life is still crazy and it keeps me on my toes as usual LOL. At this point, I don’t even complain. I know every pain turns into a lesson, every lost turns into a gain, and every stall in life is preparing me for something better in store…which I probably can’t see right now because I’m too focused on what’s happening CURRENTLY in my life instead of the bigger picture.
Don’t you hate when that happens?! You’re so focused on the current problems that’s happening in your life instead of focusing on the WHY. It’s always about the WHY and its always for a reason. Why am I going through disappointments in life? Why does it feel like I make the same mistakes over and over even when I feel like I’m doing better? Why does it feel like when I take a step forward, it always seems to take me back to square one?
Life is testing me on all levels right now! It’s testing me in my family relationship, my love relationship, and certain friendships as well. It’s hard ya’ll…but it also made me think about perspective and perception in all my life relationships. I know I’m far from being the perfect human being. I may do things unintentionally that hurt my loved ones and they also do things that hurt me unintentionally. It’s crazy because at firsthand, both parties are both ignorant in what we are doing to each other. That’s why communication is key on EVERYTHING in life. It’s not always easy, but we have to be accountable for the actions we take in life because not only does it affect you, it affects the person(s) in your life. Every mistake you make makes a domino effect on everything you touch and love. As humans, the only thing we can do is strive and create boundaries in our mind. When you feel like you’re slipping or f**king up, do better. When you feel like you mess up, clean it up. When you feel like you slipped away from the boundaries you set up for you life and your purpose, set new boundaries that keep you grounded on the goals you want to succeed in life. The thing about life is we all have choices and we have to be careful on the ones we make. Some choices are good and some are bad, but every choice will cause a reaction…
Which brings us to the word “Perception”.
The Webster definition of “perception” is a result of perceiving : observation. : a mental image : concept. obsolete : consciousness
God’s definition of “perception” is…. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:2
…BUT God always warns us that perception is “tricky”, so we have to be careful in our ways, thoughts, and actions….“The wise person has his eyes in his head, but the fool walks in darkness. And yet I perceived that the same event happens to all of them.– Ecclesiastes 2:14
In my eyes, The Webster definition of perception reminds me of us in the practical mind of our “earthly ways.” We understand the meaning of right and wrong and we know its essential to life, but we don’t always follow our conscience between right and wrong, and that’s when life (and God) has to teach us a lesson when we don’t follow with the right conscience and choice. Let’s face it…we all have that moment when we make a choice and go with it.
If its a good choice, it will show.
It’s its a bad choice, it will show.
When we are right in life, it comes back in blessings.
When we are wrong in life, it comes back with consequences and losses that we took for granted.
God’s definition of perception is totally different….you notice it and you will definitely feel it when you have a deep relationship with him. It speaks to you and even when you wanna get revenge on someone who has hurt you… that feeling of getting back at them won’t be in your heart because you know God created a better image of you…and its not worth it! I am a witness that the best revenge is leaving it in God’s hands and getting your “licks” back in winning in life.
Let the hurt go, no matter how hard it is.
In my younger days, I believed in getting my “lick” back when someone wronged or betrayed me, but growth is so beautiful and I’m so thankful for the mindset I have now! I’m soooo glad I’m not that person anymore and I don’t plan on going back to being her. And I owe that work to God.
Life will always be full of drama. The enemy will always find a way to attack you and that’s why you have to stay battle- ready for whatever life throws at you. The perfect way to deal with life is to be the best person you can be, practice self-care, do right by your loved ones, and love yourself. You have to be true to yourself before you can be an asset to anyone else.
Most importantly, always lean on God’s understanding and not your own. We tend to overthink. Our perception of the world as humans get crisscrossed because of lack of communication, lack of self-worth, lack of love, baggage, past hurts, mental issues, troubles, worries, pride, self-indulgence, greediness, and the list follows…
The first step to become the person you TRULY want to be is becoming THAT person and taking the first footstep towards that path.
Until next time,