When You Can’t Say #IssaBae on V-Day

Hey My Loves,

Today is #IssaBae Day originally known as Valentine’s Day. I know what you’re thinking. All the taken women are going to be flooding your timeline with gifts, adoration, love, and some will get surprise marriage proposals. You will secretly lurk on social media and might put a few heart eyes emoljis comments on some posts to not look too salty about you being still being single. Some of you are laughing right now, but that’s the #MOOD most single women will have today. You will remind yourself that you’re an independent woman who doesn’t need a man. (*rolls eyes). Keep on having that too much independent attitude. God is gonna send #IssaHusband one day and you’ll be too blind to see it. If you know you’re going to be full of hateration about love, stay off social media on Valentine’s Day sis. Don’t set yourself up for that kill. I don’t see a legitimate reason why you should get yourself worked up over some flowers that’s gonna die in a week. CHILL.

This is a time to embrace your singleness, not be mad at people for being happy with their significant other. That’s why I don’t care too much for V-Day… it’s a holiday to express love for an individual you’re with and showcase it…BUT you should be doing these gestures 365, not just one day out of the year. It is also a bad reminder for single people who are not content about being single. It makes them feel less worthy of themselves because they didn’t get a $15 bouquet of flowers and a $5 box of candy from someone. (Read that last part again.) That’s nothing to be sad about!

Yall that MAD over a holiday?


If I want to be adored and given flowers to, I can do that for myself any day of the week. While I’m a huge advocate for love and my platform is based for single women who will have the title #IssaWife one day, it bothers me that so many single women get depressed about a man-made holiday to determine if you’re worthy of being loved or not. If you are spending V-day alone, it is not the end of the world. You are not any less than the woman who will be showered with gifts.

It is better to be single and content on V-day than to be asking yourself what the hell you are doing with a person you know isn’t right for you. You don’t want to be the woman who is in a relationship and gets nothing for V-day, but will gloat on social media like she has the perfect relationship because she cares what others think of her. You don’t want to be the sideline who won’t even see the bae because he will be too busy spending this holiday with the main chick. Both of these will be real life situations for some and it will be painful for women who will be going through it. Be thankful you are not in this situation. You might not have #IssaBae, but be glad you don’t have to put up with bull either. Once you change your perspective about being single, the path to happiness becomes easier. Plus some taken women think V-Day is all about them and say to hell with the man. If you are that woman, don’t be be like that. Spoil him too!

I’m not gonna do a list about what single women need to do on V-day because y’all know what makes you happy. Keep on doing it. A single day doesn’t change anything. If you want to binge watch your favorite show and avoid social media, do it. If you want to forget about your diet and have a cheat day, do it. If you want to go out with your other single friends and get drunk on a Monday, do it. If you want to rent a hotel room, pour rose petals for your damn self, and make your vibrator the bae for the night, DO IT! This is a judge free zone and no one can judge you expect God. You will not be single forever. If your life choice is to be single for a long period of time, that’s absolutely fine too. Either way, I’m rooting for you sis!

Until next time,


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