Hey My Loves!
It’s Zip, and its been a minute since I wrote a personal blog! Between working and preparing for the release of my new book “Single Woman’s Plug” (pre-ordering starts next week), numerous things have tried to distract me or keep me off course from completing my goals. The first thing that came to mind was thinking of everything that consumes my thoughts. The second question was, what can I control and what can I let go? Lately, I have been letting ANYTHING get in my mind, but I also know it’s just the enemy’s way of distracting me from the ultimate goal. When you are driven and determined to let nothing stop you… be prepared for detours, difficulty, and pain. Because of your destiny being so bright, there will be things you have to face. You will not understand everything God is putting you through, but he does…and that’s all that matters.
My biggest flaw is stressing over things that I have no control over. It is a bad habit that I shake everyday. Because I”m a perfectionist, I feel complete when I have control in my life, especially things I didn’t see coming. Sometimes, the outcome is me finding a solution and sometimes the solution is me surrendering and letting God come up with a solution. The key to mastering your thoughts is knowing when you did all you can. and when its time to let go or change your perspective. When the problem becomes too heavy for me to carry, God will help me carry it. He will provide!
Changing your perspective (especially in bad situations) isn’t always easy and its not an overnight job. It is definitely a skill you must practice meaning you have to be thinking clearly if you want to make logical decisions. As “detours” come and go, we can all agree the timing is always bad when the detour comes! It seems like everything is going wrong in your life already…and BOOM!…here comes more rain heading your way! When you’e facing pain and difficulty, don’t forget the same God that is there through the good times is still the same God through the bad times. In times where you feel like giving up, I want you to remember this scripture:
“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”- Proverbs 3:5-6
If you have a “my way or the highway” attitude, its harder and longer to figure out why God has you going through these certain detours. Sometimes the detour is us. God will put a certain plan or thought on your heart for a reason, and he will bug you and have you go through the same lessons again UNTIL you move into what he placed on your heart. I can’t count how many times I have ignored what God told me, and taking my own route led me to places I had no business being in. With our own guidance, we can be heading towards self-destruction. His direction will never lead you in deception, betrayal, or harm.
A detour can also come in the form of a season. In this season of my life, I have become “less accessible” to people who are no good for me or is simply a distraction in my life. I know you heard the saying, “less people, less problems” and that statement is so true. As I scrolled on FB this morning, I saw a tweet from Necole Kane that got me together this afternoon!
This chapter in your life requires a different you. You might be uncomfortable, but you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable in order to get through every detour. If you master the ability to trust God even when you can see the end result, you will always get through every detour in your life. There are places God needs us to go so that we can help others who can’t get over the hump, who have no idea how to face their detours etc.
I encourage you to “upgrade your thoughts” everyday. No matter what’re facing, remember you are not the first to go through it, but you can be a vessel for the next person who doesn’t know how to get through it. Embrace the detours in life, for you never know it’s something you have to go through to reach the next level of you.
Until next time,