“Agree with God, and be at peace; thereby good will come to you.”
– Job 22:21
We all go through life asking the questions, “Why am I here? What is my purpose?”
Some of us go our whole lives not finding out the reason why we are here, and unfortunately some people die still trying to figure it out. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
Our purpose is not only the mark we want to leave behind, but also embracing the pain that comes with it.
I’m pretty sure I lost some of you guys with that one. Who actually wants to embrace pain? Who actually likes going through life with no direction? It’s crazy, but ironically its necessary for growth. All the painful things I endured in life had to happen for me to become stronger. All the things I lost made me appreciate the things I was taking for granted. Pain also taught me that life is not fair and everybody is not going to be a winner, no matter how many pats on the back people give you. If you want to be a winner, it’s up to you to become one. For the things I couldn’t do, I mastered the things I can do. When you find your purpose in life, you become fearless in everything you do. You become less affected from the critics who don’t believe in you or knock on your door with negativity. People who don’t know their purpose are always threatened by people who do. You might be an inspiration or a force of motivation to others, but it is impossible to fulfill somebody else’s purpose. You will never know your purpose if you stay standstill in life. We are so scared of change, but fail to realize change brings growth and opportunity. It sheds light on the areas we need improvement on. If you can’t be honest with yourself, you are leaving room for another person to tell you things about yourself that you should already know.
During this time in my life, I am my biggest critic because I have told myself I can do better. Every day, I am looking for ways to become a better me with help from my Personal Savoir. My past doesn’t define me. My pain doesn’t define me. My purpose doesn’t even define me. It shows the world who I am, but I have the power of what defines me.
Life is not easy. Everyone has secret battles no one knows about. Everyone has pain that they are ashamed to reveal to the world. Pain brings purpose. I have been through things that were meant to destroy me. I was the girl who cried to God about why he gave me a seizure disorder. I was the girl who grew up with daddy issues and allowed men to treat me less than what I deserved. I was the girl who was self conscious about my looks and weight in a society that ignores self-hate. I was the kid who got teased about my name not realizing the same name would give me praise today. I was the girl who ignored God for a life of self-destruction. I was a lot of things that caused pain, and I accepted destruction because it was all I was used to at that time. It was a normal feeling for me. That’s until I fully surrendered to God and let him have his way with me. No holding back. No excuses. No worries.
As a Christian woman, I still go through pain. I still have nights I have to pray to keep myself from crying. The only difference is I know the pain is necessary in order for me to get through the next level in my life. I can’t advance if I’m willing to stay in the same plan, the same level, or the same path in life. Also, I never bite off more than I can chew. I know how much to put on my plate. Some people can probably bite off more than me, but that’s not my business. This is my life, therefore I have to make sure I can chew and finish what’s on MY plate.
For the ones reading this that are lost or haven’t found out your purpose: you are not alone. I know it feels like things won’t get better, but it will. I know it seems like everyone else has it all together, but everyone has something they wish they were better at. God will never give you more than you can bear. You can’t give up before you even get started. The only person stopping you is you. The pain you have endured will mold you into the person you will become.
“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.”
– 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
Until next time,
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